Don’t talk to the Cops. . .
The following video provides excellent advice for all of us, but I think it’s an especially important video to watch and talk about with our teens. These days, the consequences of our children’s or their friends actions are real; laws are tough, justice can be swift, and punishments are harsh.
It goes without saying that we want our children to obey the law, tell the truth, and cooperate with law enforcement officials. However, when and if trouble strikes, our children should be instructed to say absolutely nothing. Whether they’re being accused or questioned by a school official or a police officer, this is a good rule of thumb to apply.
“I want my parents,” should be the only words that come from their mouths. Think about it. Do you really want the teen who had to be told five times to unload the dishwasher to be involved in a conversation with the police without you present? Parents also need to keep their mouths shut tight until they can speak to a lawyer with their child.
The advice in the video may be especially hard – but maybe even more important to follow – when we truly believe our child is innocent.
Take the Fifth. It is a tough world out there and what you say can and will be held against you.
*Update: I was told last night by an “officer of the court” that our children should not even ask to call their parents. The police must call a minors parents-or they can make the call with their “one phone call.” It’s easy for the police to intimidate a teen with the idea of calling their parents perhaps suggesting if they just tell the police what happened there might not be a reason to worry their parents or for them to ever find out.