Lets Get Real….
Last week, Cole jumped in the car after his driver’s education class and blasted me with, “MOM! Oprah is so judgmental and I bet she does not even drive a car!” Used to these kinds of conversations with my 15-year-old son, I just stared at him dumbly until he offered me a few more details. It seems they had watched a 45-minute video about Oprah’s No Phone Pledge in class. Cole wondered why they hadn’t had a “real person” talk about the dangers of driving and texting or talking on the phone. A “real person” would be a paramedic, a victim of distracted driving, a policeman or a doctor.
Perhaps it is the influence of Cole’s Waldorf education, but I have always sought out “real people” for Cole to engage with; the butcher, the baker, the candlestick maker. If he wanted to know about something, we found a doer not a talker. Joe and I parented this way as well.
When Cole was little, my best source of information always came from the mom who was just a little further down the parenting path. When Joe wanted to know more about being a soccer coach after watching celebrity videos at a training camp, he talked to dads who had coached 1st graders. He learned valuable information never taught in a celebrity video, like how to remove little tiny diamond earrings from a little girl’s ears (no earrings on the soccer field). The advice was, “Find a mom.”
When I shared this with friends, they pointed out that Oprah was used because she would make a larger impression than a paramedic. Is this a good thing? Teaching our children to rely on a celebrity dog-and-pony show to give them the facts and information?
It’s true, many kids don’t have “real people” role models in their lives, and celebrities like Oprah step in and fill the void, but the problem is … Charlie Sheen and Brittney Spears are just around the next corner.
Cole’s driver’s ed class or school classrooms have the opportunity to showcase real people as role models; the everyday human kind.
Charles Barkley may have said it best, “I’m not a role model … Just because I dunk a basketball doesn’t mean I should raise your kids.” I agree, but perhaps the butcher, baker, paramedic, fireman, policeman, doctor, union worker, campaign envelope stuffer is the perfect “real person” to deliver the message our kids need to hear. We just need to let our kids know we value these people every bit as much as the celebrities that pontificate on television or in magazines.
“Mom, did you know Oprah doesn’t even have any kids? She hardly drives and she is very judgmental about how other people live. She may be right about texting and talking on the phone while driving, but she should stick to being a celebrity.”
Let’s get real. The kid has a point.
9 thoughts on “Lets Get Real”
Well first of all your advertisement brings back many memories! Cole has a very good point and a point I happen to share. When my kids started to college particularly Columbia Chicago the vice cop from that district gave a lecture to parent and child about campus safety. Kids from all over the world attending a city college may not be street wise and there were “real” concerns. I heard that lecture loud and clear and we discussed further for weeks to come.
Jim is not handy and does not feel comfortable with tools but I did not want my son to have his phobia’s so I hired a retired painter and woodmaker to work with my son for two hours a week. Tom made lovely woodworking projects and he is a good painter today. Best of all Tom has no fear of tools and can do the basic home repairs if needed. We consulted farmers and their wives for gardening advice and I often said to Jim these elderly people have ” rural wisdom” they just know things that we didn’t know,like where to smell out the morels! I never did learn that skill and I am trying to find an elderly friend to teach me!
Being able to smell out a morel would be very handy—everyone loves a fresh morel (mushroom, right?) Not to be confused with smelling out a fresh mole. 😀
The kid does indeed have a point. Hope the driving lessons are going well. We’ve yet to start…sigh:( Hugs, Diane
Drivers Ed is required in Il–most public schools offer it–The cemetery is a fabulous place to start and then just ease out on to a side road. I would bring a nice beverage with you to sip on… 😉
He’s got a great head on his shoulders. We have these celebs telling kids and us what we should do, but I’m not sure why.
I can’t believe I’m saying this, but Oprah is right here. It sounds like he sees it.
for what it is worth. Allstate insurance does a program where they come to town and give a very practical demonstration of how dangerous driving and texting can be. Kids and parents both drive the course, no one gets hurt but traffic cones, but it made the point very clearly for my son. I highly recommend it if you can find it/get in.
Yes–Oprah is right. I like the Allstate idea… “practice experience” is such a great teacher….I will see if they have it here.
WOW!! The most honest opinion I ever heard on Oprah! Cole is my new favorite guy now! 🙂
I am sure he will be honored! Hope you are having a great trip.
Cole is a very astute kid…you and Joe deserve the credit for raising a kid who thinks for himself!
I was horrified yesterday to see a friend who owns an insurance company hop into his truck and drive away without his seatbelt on!
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